3.10 Enhance Your Personal Validity
"It is better to
conquer yourself than to win a thousand battles. Then the
victory is yours. It cannot be taken from you, not by angels or by demons,
by heaven or by hell"....Buddha
battle than the man who would conquer a thousand men,
is he who would conquer just one —himself.
Better to conquer yourself than others.
When you've trained yourself, living in constant self-control,
neither a deva nor gandhabba, nor a Mara banded with Brahmas,
could turn that triumph back into defeat.” ― Buddha
"There is little
that can withstand a man who can conquer himself."
This article about the enhancement of
one's Personal Validity follows from the
"Evaluate your Personal Validity " article.
“Every morning we
are born again. What we do today is what
matters most.” ....Buddha
The enhancement of Personal Validity can only be accelerated after a being
has attained a sufficient level of self - integration, a state of fulfillment and
yet a state of fluidity, a state of command over oneself and yet not a state
of indifference towards others, a state of completeness and yet not
without yearning for challenges, a state where death is welcome and
yet every moment of life is precious.
"No person who is
enthusiastic about his work has anything
to fear from life"....Samuel Goldwyn
"It matters not how long you live, but how well".....P. Syrus 1 BC
The process feedback loop of evaluate - enhance - explore - drift -
experiment - test - experience - evaluate is the process that
was being presented here as a general evaluation method that
should work for most people, provided of course, there is an
unshakable commitment to do so, and then and only that can
a being arrive at an integrated self that can have or make
some measure of one's totality.
perceived enemies to this method are: indifference,
lack of purpose, self-satisfaction, self-justification and self-pity.
The only way forward is to carry on relentlessly even if there
are no apparent rewards.
"The master of
the art of living makes little distinction between his work and
his play, his labor and his leisure, his mind and his body, his education and his
recreation, his love and his religion. He hardly knows which is which; he simply
pursues his vision of excellence in whatever he does, leaving others to decide
whether he is working or playing. To him he is always doing both." - Buddha
"There are only
two ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a
miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle."...Einstein
Life is a trap, but also, and more so - a challenge.
One thing is certain: that there are no easy ways
or shortcuts, and certainly no escape.
" Nothing destroys iron like its own rust." ....Chinese proverb
"It is easy to sit up and take notice, What is difficult is getting
up and taking action"....Al Batt
The real challenge comes when one has attained substantial control over one's
sub conscious processes, when one has attained a critical level of knowing about
one's own core nature, and also a degree of freedom of thought and action.
( unbounded by petty considerations and killing routines ).
Reality presents before each one of us an edifice of circumstances that
appears puzzling at first and even downright bewildering or confusing at
times. It depends totally upon each one of us to unravel it until a stage
is reached wherefrom a momentum of freedom and action can not
only sustain, but also grow. Many times one may get stuck on trying
to find a way that could solve everyone's problems in this world. That
usually turns out to be a recipe for frustration and failure. The primary
objective should always be to successfully solve the problem and path
of one's own life rather than trying to satisfy or please everyone. Then
and only then can there be a possibility of a larger contribution to
the world. Personal freedom is the prime focus here.
"No matter how complicated a problem
is, it usually can be reduced
to a simple, comprehensible form which is often the best solution"
"Luck is where opportunity meets preparation"....Denzel Washington
The challenge then is to put to creative use the freedom and its
consequences : power to make and create choices that lead
to forceful expression
and action .
Freedom, without its creative use will quickly be lost and all the
hard work done to attain it will be frittered away.
"The price of liberty is eternal
That is the additional price one has to pay for freedom - yes, it costs, ironically to
retain it ; its not free. Because with freedom also comes responsibility.
"If anyone thinks
he has no responsibilities, it is because he has
not sought them out"......Mary Lyon
Not much can be said about what it means to be responsible : the only thing that
can be generalized is that responsibility is the ability or extent to which one
returns or contributes creatively to the ecosystem that gives life and being
to the individual that attains freedom.
"To give up the task of reforming
society is to give up one's
responsibility as a free man"....Alan Paton
The key questions are : are we leaving behind a better world than the one
that was when we came into it ?
Have we taken more from this world than we have given back to it ?
Have we created more than destroyed or destroyed more than created ?
Do we even have the guts left to honestly answer this without
deceiving ourselves ?
Has life been a worthy challenge or just something that one seeks
to escape from or end ?
Does one look forward to accepting future challenges ?
"The worst thing that one can do
is not try, to be aware of what one wants
and not give in to it, to spend years in silent hurt wondering if something
could have materialized -- and never knowing."........David Viscott
"Whenever anything is being
accomplished, it is being done, I have learned,
by a monomaniac with a mission." - Peter Drucker
ENHANCE OR EVOLVE ?
The concept of enhance is chosen here over the concept of evolve
since the 'evolve' concept is a tricky one and has been highly abused.
These are related here as : to enhance one's potential is to evolve and
this means : developing a better capability and higher capacity to take
on tougher and tougher challenges of life, but a basic integration of
one's faculties is the first step.
Having attained a basic level of integration and control over oneself,
the next most important challenge comes in one's relationships to
other beings, particularly human. The above questions can only be
answered in terms of the quality of interaction that one achieves
in one's relationship to other human beings.
thing is never to let oneself be guided by the opinion of
one's contemporaries; to continue steadfastly on one's way without
letting oneself be either defeated by failure or diverted by applause".
This does not mean popularity or even recognition. It may even
mean a continuous conflict and struggle, especially so if one's
ideals are not those that are the ideals of the society and culture
in which one lives. But the attempt is all that matters, even if it
ends in failure.
"If we put the
emphasis upon the right things, if we live the life that is
worth while and then fail, we will survive all disasters, we will out-live
all misfortune. We should be so well balanced and symmetrical, that
nothing which could ever happen could."....Orison S Marden
"A man's life is
interesting primarily when he has failed - I well know.
For it is a sign that he has tried to surpass himself"
One of the main focus of this work is to be able to resist those
social and cultural values and ideals that one knows are clearly
wrong, misguiding or
"Every man who is truly a man
must learn to be alone in the midst
of all others, and if need be against all others"....Romain Rolland
"This social gadfly, this
skillful conversationalist, given his very
wisdom and the depth of his thought, must have been the loneliest
person who ever lived in any society, including that one."
......TTC D. Robinson on Socrates
To not give in is one thing, a first step, but to what extent one
should go or can go in a conflict of values and ideals will depend
upon one's abilities, particularly communicative abilities. In this
age and time, violent methods are out of place. As a general rule
(there may be exceptions) violence is a bad choice. The only real and
good choice is creative communication.
" No human relation
gives one possession in anotherevery two souls are
absolutely different. In friendship or in love, the two side by side raise
hands together to find what one cannot reach alone." .....Kahlil Gibran
Although the last twenty pages complete this work on Personal Validity,
the following two articles developed later were considered essential
for making this work more meaningful and directed.
The next article therefore, is an appeal, urging as well as warning to
the reader to hold up-most moral considerations ( the rightness and
wrongness of one's actions ) in anything that one undertakes, without
which our very existence itself becomes meaningless and
"The perfecting of
one's self is the fundamental base of all
progress and all moral development"..........Confucius
finally attained not when there is no longer
anything to add, but when there is no longer anything to take
Antoine de Saint Exupéry, Wind, Sand and Stars
"Things to remember:
1) The worth of character; 2) The improvement of talent;
3) The influence of example; 4) The joy of origination; 5) The dignity of simplicity;
6) The success of perseverance.7) The value of time; 8) The pleasure of working;
9) The obligation of duty; 10) The power of kindness; 11) The wisdom of economy;
12) The virtue of patience......Marshall Field.
belongs to those who prepare for it today."
"A possibility is a hint from God. One must follow it." - Soren Kierkegaard
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