3.10 Enhance Your Personal Validity

"It is better to conquer yourself than to win a thousand battles. Then the
victory is yours. It cannot be taken from you, not by angels or by demons,
by heaven or by hell"....Buddha

2nd version:

“Greater in battle than the man who would conquer a thousand men,
is he who would conquer just one —himself.
Better to conquer yourself than others.
When you've trained yourself, living in constant self-control,
neither a deva nor gandhabba, nor a Mara banded with Brahmas,
could turn that triumph back into defeat.” ― Buddha

"There is little that can withstand a man who can conquer himself."
........Louis XIV

This article about the  enhancement of one's Personal Validity follows from the

"Evaluate your Personal Validity " article.

“Every morning we are born again. What we do today is what
matters most.” ....Buddha

The enhancement of Personal Validity can only be accelerated after a being

has attained a sufficient level of self - integration, a state of fulfillment and

yet a state of fluidity, a state of command over oneself and yet not a state

of indifference towards  others,  a state  of  completeness  and  yet   not

without  yearning   for  challenges,  a state where death is welcome and

yet every moment of life is precious.

"No person who is enthusiastic about his work has anything
to fear from life"....Samuel Goldwyn

"It matters not how long you live, but how well".....P. Syrus 1 BC

The process feedback loop of evaluate - enhance - explore - drift -

experiment  - test  -   experience -  evaluate is the process that

was  being  presented here as a general evaluation method that

should  work   for  most people,  provided of course,  there is an

unshakable   commitment  to do so,  and then  and only that can

a  being   arrive  at  an  integrated  self  that  can have or make 

some  measure of one's totality.

The  only   perceived  enemies to this method are:  indifference,

lack of purpose, self-satisfaction, self-justification and self-pity.

The only way forward is to carry on relentlessly even if there

are no apparent rewards.

"The master of the art of living makes little distinction between his work and
his play, his labor and his leisure, his mind and his body, his education and his
recreation, his love and his religion. He hardly knows which is which; he simply
pursues his vision of excellence in whatever he does, leaving others to decide
whether he is working or playing. To him he is always doing both." - Buddha

"There are only two ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a
 miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle."...Einstein

Life is a trap, but also, and more so - a challenge.

One thing is certain: that there are no easy ways

or shortcuts, and certainly no escape.

" Nothing destroys iron like its own rust." ....Chinese proverb

"It is easy to sit up and take notice, What is difficult is getting

up and taking action"....Al Batt

The real challenge comes when one has attained substantial control over one's

sub conscious processes, when one has attained a critical level of knowing about

one's own core nature,   and also a degree of freedom of thought and action.

( unbounded by petty considerations and killing routines ).

Reality presents before each one of us an edifice of circumstances that

appears puzzling at first and even downright bewildering or confusing at

 times. It depends totally upon each one of us to unravel it until a stage

is reached wherefrom a momentum of freedom and action can not

only sustain, but also grow. Many times one may get stuck on trying

to find a way that could solve everyone's problems in this world. That

usually turns out to be a recipe for frustration and failure. The primary

objective should always be to successfully solve the problem and path

of one's own life rather than trying to satisfy or please everyone. Then

and only then can there be a possibility of a larger contribution to

the world. Personal freedom is the prime focus here.

"No matter how complicated a problem is, it usually can be reduced
 to a simple, comprehensible form which is often the best solution"
...........An Wang

"Luck is where opportunity meets preparation"....Denzel Washington

 The challenge then is to put to creative use the freedom and its

consequences :   power to make and create choices that lead

to forceful expression and action .

Freedom, without its creative use will quickly be lost and all the

hard work done to attain it will be frittered away.

"The price of liberty is eternal vigilance"........F Douglass.

That is the additional price one has to pay for freedom - yes, it costs, ironically to

retain it ; its not free. Because with freedom also comes responsibility.

"If anyone thinks he has no responsibilities, it is because he has
not sought them out"......Mary Lyon

Not much can be said about what it means to be responsible : the only thing that

can be generalized is that responsibility is the ability or extent to which one

returns or contributes creatively to the ecosystem that gives life and being

to the individual that attains freedom. 

"To give up the task of reforming society is to give up one's
responsibility as a free man"....Alan Paton

The key questions are : are we leaving behind a better world than the one

that was when we came into it ?

Have we taken more from this world than we have given back to it ?

Have we created more than destroyed  or destroyed more than created ?

Do we even have the guts left to honestly answer this without

deceiving ourselves ?

Has life been a worthy challenge or just something that one seeks

to escape from or end ?

Does one look forward to accepting future challenges ?

"The worst thing that one can do is not try, to be aware of what one wants
 and not give in to it, to spend years in silent hurt wondering if something
 could have materialized -- and never knowing."........David Viscott

"Whenever anything is being accomplished, it is being done, I have learned,
by a monomaniac with a mission." - Peter Drucker



The  concept   of  enhance  is  chosen  here over the concept of evolve

since the 'evolve' concept is a tricky one and has been highly abused.

These are related here as : to enhance one's potential is to evolve and

this means : developing a better capability and higher capacity to take

on tougher and tougher challenges of life, but a basic integration of

one's faculties is the first step.

Having attained a basic level of integration and control over oneself,

the next most important challenge comes in one's relationships to

other beings, particularly human. The above questions can only be

answered in terms of the quality of interaction that one achieves

in one's relationship to other human beings.

"The important thing is never to let oneself be guided by the opinion of
one's contemporaries; to continue steadfastly on one's way without
letting oneself be either defeated by failure or diverted by applause".
......Gustav Mahler

This does not mean popularity or even recognition. It may even

mean  a continuous   conflict and struggle, especially so if one's

ideals are not those that are the ideals of the society and culture

in which one lives. But the attempt is all that matters, even if it

ends in failure.

"If we put the emphasis upon the right things, if we live the life that is
worth while and then fail, we will survive all disasters, we will out-live
all misfortune. We should be so well balanced and symmetrical, that
nothing which could ever happen could."....Orison S Marden

"A man's life is interesting primarily when he has failed - I well know.
For it is a sign that he has tried to surpass himself"
....Georges Clemenceau

One of the main focus of this work is to be able to resist those

social and cultural values and ideals that one knows are clearly

wrong, misguiding or simply inadequate.

"Every man who is truly a man must learn to be alone in the midst
of all others, and if need be against all others"....Romain Rolland

"This social gadfly, this skillful conversationalist, given his very
wisdom and the depth of his thought, must have been the loneliest
person who ever lived in any society, including that one."
......TTC D. Robinson on Socrates


To not give in is one thing, a first step, but to what extent one

should go or can go in a conflict of values and ideals will depend

upon one's abilities, particularly communicative abilities. In this

age and time, violent methods are out of place. As a general rule

(there may be exceptions) violence is a bad choice. The only real and

good choice is creative communication.

" No human relation gives one possession in another—every two souls are
absolutely different. In friendship or in love, the two side by side raise
hands together to find what one cannot reach alone."  .....Kahlil Gibran

Although the last twenty pages complete this work on Personal Validity,

the following two articles developed later were considered essential

for making this work more meaningful and directed.

The  next article therefore, is an appeal, urging as well as warning to

the reader to hold  up-most  moral  considerations ( the rightness and

wrongness of one's actions ) in anything that one undertakes, without

which  our   very  existence  itself   becomes  meaningless  and

redundant :

"The perfecting of one's self is the fundamental base of all
progress and all moral development"..........Confucius

"Perfection is finally attained not when there is no longer
anything to add, but when there is no longer anything to take
Antoine de Saint Exupéry, Wind, Sand and Stars

"Things to remember: 1) The worth of character; 2) The improvement of talent;
3) The influence of example; 4) The joy of origination; 5) The dignity of simplicity;
6) The success of perseverance.7) The value of time; 8) The pleasure of working;
9) The obligation of duty; 10) The power of kindness; 11) The wisdom of economy;
12) The virtue of patience......Marshall Field.

"The future belongs to those who prepare for it today."
Malcolm X

"A possibility is a hint from God. One must follow it." - Soren Kierkegaard


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